The Heart Of The Matter …


No organ within the human body represents life more than the heart and rightly so. But the heart can have its share of problems. Some worse than others. Chronic Heart Failure, also known as Cardiac Failure or CHF, is an illness that has no cure. CHF happens when the heart is damaged and cannot function (pump) properly. Once it is damaged, it cannot heal. And, with time, CHF will progress or worsen. As our population ages, more cases of CHF will be diagnosed. Approximately two-thirds of all patients over the age of 70 have heart failure. And 20% of all patients, over the age of 40, will experience CHF at some point in their lifetime.

The risk factors for Chronic Heart Failure vary, but include: multiple Cardiovascular conditions, advanced age, Hypertension, Diabetes, Dyslipidemia, Alcohol consumption, Obesity, etc.

Common symptoms for CHF include:

  • Breathlessness
  • Swollen legs, ankles, or stomach
  • Weight gain
  • Loss of appetite
  • Coughing
  • Dizziness

If you or a loved one are struggling with these symptoms, please contact your doctor.  Diagnosis for CHF is achieved through various tests, i.e. chest x-ray, echocardiogram, electrocardiogram (ECG) and/or coronary angiogram. Once your diagnosis has been made, it is important to monitor your symptoms regularly. If they worsen or additional symptoms appear, you should contact your doctor immediately.

Treatment options depend upon the Stage (A,B,C, orD) of a patient’s CHF as well as their medical history. There are medications that can help manage the condition. Lifestyle changes are also important. Devices like a pacemaker, or implanted cardiac defibrillator (ICD), may be advised. But in more serious cases, a heart transplant may be needed.

By now, if you or a loved one has been diagnosed with Chronic Heart Failure, you may be wondering about life expectancy. No doubt you are feeling pretty overwhelmed. Life expectancy varies, depending upon the patient’s condition. According to a study published in Circulation Research, in 2013, doctors estimated that 50% of CHF patients survived 5 years. And approximately 10% lived a decade. A lot depends upon you and your response to CHF, both physically and mentally.

The best way to live with Chronic Heart Failure is to do so with confidence. Embrace optimism. Yes, you are sick. It is very serious. But you are not alone. There are millions of people living with Chronic illnesses. Many of them have CHF. Educate yourself on your condition. Talk openly with your doctor and your family. Ask questions. Make lifestyle changes, if you can. There are ways to minimize your symptoms. Discuss your options. Your confidence will actually improve your daily living. It will allow you to manage the stress of having a Chronic illness. It will help you to cope with your new normal. Yes, it’s scary. Anyone who has CHF, or any chronic illness, understands your fears. Those who have experienced setbacks know your frustration. But every day is a gift worth having — worth living. You can do it!


“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

 — Philippians 4:13 (KJV)


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World Cancer Day: Who Will You Remember?


For most Americans, this Sunday is Super Bowl Sunday. There will be parties … family and friends … a feast of foods … cold drinks … and then the much-anticipated big game. Many might even make a little wager, on its outcome. But for other Americans, as well as the rest of the world, February 4th is World Cancer Day. A time set aside to prevent millions of Cancer deaths through education and awareness.

Cancer is a group of related diseases. As it develops, within the human body, the orderly process of cell growth becomes chaotic. Abnormal. This usually results in extra cells forming tumors. Although, not all Cancers produce such growths, i.e. Leukemia. Cancer cells invade the immune system and can actually prevent it from doing its job. Tumors can even use the body’s immune system to grow. As the disease spreads, it is medically termed as Metastatic Cancer. And the possibility of a patient achieving a five-year survival rate is significantly reduced.

Most people know that Cancer is a Genetic Disease. The genetic changes that cause Cancer can be inherited from our parents. In some families, its existence can be traced from one generation to the next and so on — like hair and eye color. If you ask, most individuals can name someone who has been diagnosed with the disease. Cancer is that prevalent, within our society. But what they may not know is how lethal Cancer actually is … even with modern medicine. Cancer is the second leading cause of death, globally. It is also the second leading cause of death, in the U.S. And cases are expected to rise 70%, in the next 20 years. Will you, or someone you love, be one?

There are ways to help prevent Cancer, i.e. tests, diet and lifestyle changes, risk-reducing surgery, etc. Talk to your doctor about your options. Because they do exist. More importantly, follow through with them. Millions are diagnosed with Cancer, every year. Many will succumb to the disease. Young and old. Male and female. Rich. Middle-class. And Poor. Cancer doesn’t discriminate. And it certainly doesn’t show mercy. It is easier to be proactive than to be a statistic.

This Sunday, before you are swept up in the festivities that surround the Super Bowl, take a moment. Reflect upon the greater battle — Cancer. How many people do you know who have faced the diagnosis? How many lost their fight? February 4th is World Cancer Day. Who will you remember?


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Is Your Stinger Out?


Years ago, when our son was barely two years old, he was stung by a bee while playing in a wading pool. It hurt horribly. And through his tears, he asked, “Why did it sting me, Mommy?” Try explaining the aggressive actions of a bee to a toddler. I had no plausible explanation that a child his age could understand. So, I focused my son’s attention on the stinger and making sure that it was out.

Over the years, in our family, that little episode became a teaching experience for how to avoid hurting someone. If you came through the door with an attitude, someone would tell you to “Pull your stinger in”. It didn’t matter how old you were, or who you were. This became the warning-shot across the bow of emotions that we all used. We all knew what it meant. In some way, someone was close to hurting someone else. Perhaps, they were angry? Tired. Frustrated. Maybe, they were just feeling too big for their britches? But causing more pain wasn’t the answer.

These days, as I strive to juggle multiple Chronic Illnesses and lead a productive life, I seem to be hearing that warning more than anyone else. There are times when the pain is just all-consuming and it takes every ounce of strength to deal with it. Days when the symptoms are far worse, than in weeks or months past.

If you have a Chronic Illness, then you know what I mean. The setbacks are so frustrating that you resort to tears and foul language. Medications must be added, or changed. Or, perhaps, you manage to pick-up whatever virus is going around? You feel like hell, to be blunt. The world around you is marching on, but you seem to be getting further behind. Whatever the reason, you are a grumpy soul. A short fuse. And your stinger is out … just waiting to zap someone. I make no excuses for my shortcomings. This is part of life with a Chronic illness.

Once that stinger has inflicted pain, you don’t feel any better. I know that I don’t. In fact, you probably find yourself feeling worse. Guilt-ridden. Maybe, even depressed? Living with a Chronic Illness is a lesson in many things, including patience and forgiveness. The sooner that you embrace this idea, the better you will feel emotionally. And you may find that it helps you to avoid a few negative situations, in the future.

Your life was hectic, before your diagnosis.  So was mine. That isn’t going to change. There will always be something to irritate you … upset you … frustrate you. Chronic illnesses magnify these problems. If you get stressed out, you usually worsen your condition. And keep in mind, your Chronic Illness affects those around you too. It stresses them — scares them. We all have our limits.

When the pain, setbacks and frustration of Chronic Illness overwhelm you … take a breath. Our bodies are not what they once were, like it or not. And none of us were given a vote, on the matter. Still, you can learn to be patient with yourself and others. Think about it. With patience, you will be able to achieve your goals. You’ll have healthier relationships. And that equates to a better, happier life.

Will patience solve all of your problems? No. But it will provide a healthier approach to dealing with them. Think of it as a “coping skill”. Because that’s exactly what it is. So, pull your stinger in and slow down. It isn’t worth inflicting hurt upon your loved ones. It isn’t necessary. They don’t deserve the grief. And you really don’t need the added stress. Yet, it will happen from time to time. The illness will get the best of you.

When it does, seek the forgiveness that heals. Go to whoever you have hurt, i.e. your spouse, children, neighbor, etc., and apologize. Make amends. It is what they need to hear. It is the burden of guilt that you need to shed. Humility is a healthy thing. Don’t be afraid to exercise a little of it. Always deal with the hurt that you’ve caused, in an expeditious way. Don’t allow it to fester. That will only cause more pain … involve more loved ones, etc. Your family and friends are your support system. And you are part of theirs. Lean on each other. Talk. Forgive. Love. Savor every day that you have together. Life is too precious for anything less.


“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”     — Colossians 3:13 (NIV)



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Winter Is Harsh On The Garden …

Every gardener knows that Winter is harsh on the garden. When the worst of the season sets in, with thick clouds … howling winds … snow … ice … and frigid temperatures … the garden is a dreary place to be. Barren. Even lonely. Our lives are gardens, too; remember? And Winter takes its toll on them, especially if you live with Chronic Pain.

Most pain, thankfully, is temporary. In a few days, or a couple of weeks, the body is back to its old self and the injury is soon forgotten. Chronic Pain isn’t so easy. It is pain that persists for 3-6 months or longer. And it is usually the result of an underlying medical condition, or injury. Many Chronic Illnesses are associated with Chronic Pain, i.e. Cancer, Fibromyalgia, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, Back Pain, Parkinson’s, etc. If you have one, then you know all too well the effects that it has on the body. You live with it, daily. And you suffer. Often times, in silence.

Chronic Pain interferes with living. It changes even the little things. But it wrecks havoc with the more important ones. Chronic Pain prevents patients from getting much needed rest — even precious REM sleep. It changes mood and mobility. It raises stress levels, within the body. The added stress can and usually does create even more pain. I’ve been there. I know. It’s a vicious cycle. The effects of Chronic Pain can lead to Depression. Why? There is a link between our emotions and pain. If your body is in pain, you feel bad. As the pain increases, you feel worse. And when the pain is prolonged, as with Chronic Pain, you begin to feel very overwhelmed … desperate … alone.

Studies have shown that people with Chronic Widespread Pain, or CWP, are more at risk than individuals who do not struggle with pain. CWP patients are 1.7 times more likely to die from Cancer. They are 3.2 times more likely to die from Cardiovascular disease and 5.7 times more likely to die from Respiratory disease. Even when lifestyle factors were taken into consideration, i.e. smoking, those with CWP were at a 50% greater risk than individuals who do not live with long-term pain.

If you suffer with Chronic Pain, management is key to achieving some level of normalcy. How you manage your pain is between you and your doctor. What works for me, or you, may not help someone else. Pain medications, especially Opioids, should be carefully prescribed and monitored. The misuse of such medications has created a crisis all its own, in America. NSAIDs, whether by prescription or over-the-counter, are another option and should also be taken as-directed. Some patients may find relief, given the source of their pain, with a minimally invasive surgical procedure. The rest of us must stay vigilant and creative. We are in this battle, for the long-haul. If you are interested in alternative options, you might consider: Acupuncture, Massage Therapy, Aromatherapy, or Cannabidiol-infused rubs (CBD).

I have been living with Chronic Pain, for almost 18 years. I don’t profess to be an expert, but experience is a good teacher. If there are two items that I cannot imagine living without, it’s my trusty heating-pad and a well-made recliner. I actually tried living without the latter, for a time. I did pretty good, until a flare threw my body into levels of pain that I hadn’t experienced in nearly 3 years. I immediately purchased a new one. As simple as it may sound, a recliner (when reclined) provides relief to the body much like a hospital-bed. Think about it. When your pain goes from bad to worse, owning one becomes a necessity. In some cases, it provides the only sleep you can get.

Last but not least, I have personally found that treating your “level of pain” is as important as treating the pain itself. Chronic Pain isn’t always a 5-alarm fire, but it is always present. So, focus on the level of pain — not eliminating it. The term “Chronic” means that it’s not going anywhere. Accept this fact. Don’t let it drag you down, or defeat you. Rest assured, it will try. There will be good days and bad. But the best way to live with Chronic Pain is to learn how to fight back. It empowers you — emotionally and physically. Yes, it is draining. That’s the nature of living with the beast. There’s nothing easy about it. Still, you become wiser from the battle — better equipped to handle the next setback (when it comes). You learn to make fewer mistakes. You explore helpful discoveries. Your outlook, despite your condition, becomes more confident. That’s healthy. It’s encouraging. And optimism, like the warmth of Spring, brings new life!


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The Garden of Optimism: What is this place?

Did you ever find yourself wondering how life managed to lead, or drag, you down a certain path? Well, such is my case. When we find ourselves in such a predicament, we usually know how we got there. But sometimes we aren’t too eager to admit it. Still, there are times when life leads us into the middle of uncharted territory. Our reaction depends upon the circumstances, our perception of them and our willingness to take on the challenge. For me, personally, I am humbled and flabbergasted.

Throughout my entire life, I have always felt a strong sense of service — volunteering with various organizations, my church and within the community. But no one would have predicted that I’d become a blogger — including me. I’m not the most tech savvy person on Earth. I freely admit that. Still, God did provide me with a gift for words. One that I’m abundantly grateful for. And He molded me with a very tenacious spirit. So, why now? Why bother?

In all honesty, I have felt a calling. Divine, as from the Lord, but not in the pastoral sense. Persistent. Urging me. Whispering to my conscience. Telling me, of all people, that I need to reach out and do this (Matthew 5:16 NIV). I need to serve (1 Peter 4:10 NIV) others. I need to help them — to become their voice. So, here I am — a Patient Advocate.

I’m not a medical professional, though I’ve seen more than my share of them. I hold no degree in Divinity. My credentials are from personal experience. And, unfortunately, this is subject-matter that I know all too well. I have lived it, for decades.

By now, if you’re still with me, you may be wondering where all of this is going. Patience, Sweet pea. I’m a Southern gal. We sometimes ramble like ivy on an arbor, but we eventually get to the point …

Mine is that our lives are like gardens. For a moment, consider the similarities. There are beautiful, bountiful years. And there are meager harvests. All of the usual things can make growing difficult. The rocks. The lousy soil. Even the daily grind. Too much heat, or stress, is harsh on a garden. And it’s harsh on us, too. The rain, whether in drops or tears, can wash away our plants … our plans … our dreams … even our deepest desires. Then, there are the things that we least suspect. The ones that we never wanted. The ones that, we so often told ourselves, only happened to other people. And our gardens are never the same …

This blog is a place of refuge and support. It is devoted to those who are living with chronic illnesses and their loved ones. I understand what you are feeling. Your garden and mine share common ground. This is about accepting that no garden is perfect, but all have beauty and purpose. It’s about realizing the potential of your garden — finding it. This is about living, each and every day to the fullest in His light (1 John 1:5 NIV). It’s about enjoying the sun on our face and the blooms that we find. It’s about allowing our bodies and souls to dance. Yes, dance — even in the rain. Come … sit a spell (as we say down South) … browse the pages of this site (there’s more than one). Let’s talk. You aren’t alone.






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