A Patient Has Rights

When you or a loved one is sick, there’s a lot to juggle. Tests. Medications. Sometimes, surgical procedures. There’s endless questions to ask. Answers that are desperately needed. And no matter how earnestly you address this upheaval, you are bound to forget something. In healthcare, your crisis is just another day at work. But for you as well as your loved ones, it’s life-altering. Scary. Often times, it may seem easier to just nod and follow along. You may find yourself even doing so, despite the concerns that are keeping you awake at night. Perhaps, you just don’t want to make a fuss? Appear difficult? Take up too much of the doctor’s time? Anyone who has ever been diagnosed with a Chronic illness understands your hesitation, confusion, fears. You want to get well — not make waves. But this isn’t Obedience Training for a new puppy. This is your life — your health. And you have rights. It’s important to know them! 

 

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Back in the summer of 1970, a grass-roots organization called The National Welfare Rights Organization (NWRO) drafted a document of 26 requests regarding healthcare treatment. This became the first Patient’s Bill of Rights. Their action came on the heels of a revision to hospital standards, by the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Hospitals. After several months of negotiation, many of the requests were included in the revised hospital standards by JCAH. In 1972, the American Hospital Association adopted a Patient’s Bill of Rights for operational use. By 1988, all 50 states had adopted a form of the Patient’s Bill of Rights to protect patients. The American Medical Association (AMA) followed suit, a year later. In 1992, the Patient’s Bill of Rights was acknowledged Federally and updated. Another revision took place, in 2010, on the Federal level. And most recently, at the Federal level, a revision was added this year to include the “Right To Try” for terminally-ill patients. 

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), most nations have a form of a Patient’s Bill of Rights that stem from the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (1948). They may vary slightly, but all were created to protect the patient. This is something to remember, when traveling abroad.

Yet, despite these many actions, Patient’s Rights are still violated. In 2016, the National Institute for Patient Rights (NIPR) conducted a study to see just how well the system works. Their findings comprised a list of the Top Ten violations of Patient’s Rights:

  • The failure to communicate
  • Adequate presentation of treatment options.
  • A lack of respect for advance directives.
  • Miscommunication.
  • Conflict between medical team & patient/advocate.
  • The right to know hospital charges and payment methods.
  • The right to review the patient’s bill.
  • Knowledge of hospital resources, including the complaints & grievance process, patient representatives, or ethics committee.
  • The right to know the identity & professional status of those working on the patient.
  • The right to review medical records, account information, etc.

It’s difficult trying to juggle the overwhelming news of a diagnosis, treatment, etc. But the process will be easier, in the long run, if you aren’t afraid to ask questions. Patients have rights. It’s a matter of professional ethics and law. Caregivers, advocates and/or family members can help by discussing a patient’s concerns with them. Make notes. That way, questions will be answered to the satisfaction of the patient. And if they aren’t, take action. Your health, or the health of a loved one, is too precious to leave to chance.

 

Reference Links:

https://www.law.cornell.edu/cfr/text/38/17.33

http://www.nationalhealthcouncil.org/resources/nhc-publications/principles-patients-rights-and-responsibilities

https://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Federal+Patients%27+Bill+of+Rights

https://www.cms.gov/CCIIO/Programs-and-Initiatives/Health-Insurance-Market-Reforms/Patients-Bill-of-Rights.html

http://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/104767-president-obama-unveils-patients-bill-of-rights

http://thehill.com/opinion/healthcare/389514-right-to-try-is-a-win-for-patient-rights-and-president-trump

http://techfeatured.com/automotive/1430/patient-rights-top-ten-list-of-most-violated

https://www.encyclopedia.com/science/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/patients-rights-i-origin-and-nature-patientsrights

http://www.who.int/genomics/public/patientrights/en/

* Photo by Mariano Rossi on Unsplash

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I’m Gonna Soak-up The Sun …

We have all been warned about too much sun exposure and harmful ultra-violet rays. In the process, awareness and prevention turned into absolute fear for some people. Yet, we rarely hear anyone talk about the benefits of sunshine. And the benefits do exist. The sun IS  healthy. In fact, WHO (World Health Organization) has noted that over 3B people worldwide are possibly suffering from ailments that are the result of very low levels of UVR (Ultraviolet Radiation). These maladies include many Chronic illnesses and musculoskeletal disorders. So whether you currently have a Chronic illness or not, you need to indulge in its warmth. Because moderate sun exposure IS a good thing!

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Personally, I find it difficult to select the best benefit from sun exposure. There are so many. But one of the most significant is Vitamin D. Unlike other vitamins that we need, Vitamin D can be synthesized in the skin through a reaction that is initiated by UVB radiation. Just 30 short minutes of sunlight, while wearing a swimsuit, can release up to 50,000 IU into the body! And Vitamin D plays a helpful role with so many Chronic illnesses, i.e. Cancer, Cardiovascular diseases, Diabetes, Auto-immune diseases, etc. It is one of the most essential nutrients that we need to maintain good health. 

Another important benefit of sunlight is the positive effect that it has on our mood. It has long been known that higher levels of serotonin equate to having a better mood, i.e. happy, satisfied, calm. Lower levels are linked to depression and anxiety. A medical study, done in Australia, found that our bodies actually have more serotonin on sunny days than on the dreary ones. Hence, the basis for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) a type of Depression. Serotonin is also linked to weight loss. Still, there’s more …

If you suffer with joint pain, then you know that the warmth of the sun is literally soothing to your body. Warmer weather seems to always bring greater mobility and less pain. Would you like to lower your blood pressure? Research has shown that nitric oxide in the top layer of our skin actually reacts to sunlight. This reaction causes blood vessels to widen as the oxide moves into our blood. And the result is a lower BP! Exposure to sunlight has been linked to getting a restful night of sleep, as well. We can all use that. And many skin disorders, i.e. eczema, acne, psoriasis, have a positive response to UV light treatment.

Summer is here, in all its glory. So take advantage of what the sun CAN do for you. Get outside. Use an SPF of 15 or higher. Remember that moderation is imperative. Nobody needs to overdo it, so stay hydrated. Take your MP3 player or a radio … turn-up the volume … enjoy your favorite music. Read a book on the chaise lounge. Go for a walk around the block. Swim a few laps in the pool. Hit a bucket of golf-balls on the driving range. Wiggle your toes in the sand. Have fun. And soak-up the sun!

 

Reference Links:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2290997/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/benefits-of-moderate-sun-exposure

http://time.com/4888327/why-sunlight-is-so-good-for-you/

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/news/20021205/unraveling-suns-role-in-depression

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5440113/

* Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash

When Pests Attack Your Garden …

Every gardener, whether they are a seasoned pro or an insecure novice, has gone head-to-head with some type of pest, i.e. mosquitoes, ants, beetles, etc. With luck, vigilance and supplies from the local garden center, the gardener is usually victorious. But our lives are gardens too: remember? When a pest like the Deer Tick attacks your garden, the result can be Chronic Lyme Disease (CLD).

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Lyme Disease is a caused by a bacterium (Borrelia burgdorferi). Patients are infected from a tick bite. Because the immature ticks, or nyphms, are extremely small many people don’t even realize that they’ve been bitten. So the tick can literally attach itself and feed for days, unnoticed. And the longer it is attached, the more likely it is to pass Lyme and/or another pathogen into the body.

With summer activities and trips on the increase, it’s important to take notice and precautions. Lyme Disease has been found on all but one continent. It has been found throughout the U.S., but it has substantially higher numbers in the Upper East Coast, the Midwest and along the West Coast. Not all ticks carry Lyme. The Deer Tick, also known as the Black-legged Tick, is the culprit. These ticks can also transmit the disease to pets. Researchers have found the bacterium in other blood-sucking insects, i.e. mosquitoes. But there is no evidence that they are capable of spreading Lyme Disease.

Ticks enjoy wooded areas … grassy fields … brush … even your backyard. They live on animals as well. To help prevent a tick bite, treat your clothing and gear for camping or hiking trips. Use EPA-approved insect repellents that contain DEET. However it is important to avoid using repellents on babies, under 2 months of age. Examine your clothing, gear and pets. Shower after being outdoors. Carefully, check your body. All of these things will greatly reduce your risk of a tick adhering to your skin.

If you are bitten, do not panic. Remove the tick with tweezers, as soon as possible. You will see a small, red bump. This isn’t unusual. The symptoms of Lyme Disease will appear, from 3-30 days after a person has been bitten. So, stay alert. If a rash appears, often in a bull’s eye pattern, you have probably been bitten by an infected tick. The rash may not even be painful, but it shouldn’t be taken lightly. Flu-like symptoms are also common, i.e. chills, fever, fatigue, headache, etc. If you experience any of these, you should contact your doctor. Untreated, the symptoms of Lyme Disease will worsen. The rash will become more widespread on your body. Other symptoms will appear, i.e. joint pain, neurological issues, etc. Heart, Eye and Liver problems have also been known to occur. And no two cases are exactly alike.

There are two tests that are widely used to confirm Lyme Disease: the ELISA test (Enzyme-linked immunosorbent assay) and the Western Blot test. The latter is administered, if the ELISA is positive. This confirms your diagnosis. Other tests may also be implemented, i.e. Polymerase Chain Reaction (PCR) and Antigen Detection. Lyme Disease is initially treated with antibiotics. It may be done orally, or by an IV.  Treatment lasts from 10-28 days. And for most patients it is effective.

According to the Center for Disease Control’s statistics, there are approximately 300K cases of Lyme Disease diagnosed in the U.S. each year.  And the numbers are increasing. About 30-40% of these cases will result in Chronic Lyme Disease, or Post-Treatment Lyme Disease (PTLD) as it is also known. These patients are profoundly affected. Patients with CLD suffer with quality of life issues that are worse than many other Chronic illnesses, i.e. Asthma, Depression, Diabetes, Fibromyalgia, even Congestive Heart Failure. Approximately 75% of the patients surveyed by lymedisease.org reported at least one severe symptom. And 63% reported two or more. Of those surveyed, 40% reported that they were unable to work. About 24% have received disability, at some point. Children with Lyme Disease may have special needs. They may have difficulties in the classroom. This isn’t the common cold. This is a long-term illness.

If you or a loved one is living with Chronic Lyme Disease, then you know the battle all too well. It is important to communicate changes in your symptoms to your doctor. Keep appointments. Take your medications. Rest. Try to maintain a level of optimism. Every victory, no matter how small, is worth celebrating. You are not alone, in this fight. But you may sometimes feel that way. Let’s be honest, your new normal feels anything but normal. Anyone with a Chronic illness can relate to that. Many Chronic illnesses are marked by flare-ups, when symptoms worsen. It’s never convenient, but you CAN do it. Adjusting to your illness isn’t easy, but it will help you to manage it. Connecting with support groups/organizations can also help, either in meetings or online. Yes, you have Chronic Lyme Disease. But you also have a life. You have plans. Dreams. Ideas to share. Places to go. So, enjoy every day to the fullest. This is your garden and it’s beautiful. It’s unique. It’s you!

 

 

Reference Links:

https://www.lymedisease.org/lyme-basics/ticks/about-ticks/

https://www.bayarealyme.org/about-lyme/what-causes-lyme-disease/

https://www.cdc.gov/lyme/prev/on_people.html

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/lyme-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20374651

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/lyme-disease/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20374655

https://www.lymedisease.org/lyme-basics/lyme-disease/chronic-lyme/

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/media/releases/study_shows_evidence_of_severe_and_lingering_symptoms_in_some_after_treatment_for_lyme_disease

https://www.petmd.com/dog/conditions/infectious-parasitic/c_dg_lyme_disease

* Photo by Andreas Ronnigen on Unsplash

A Time To Laugh …

When you are diagnosed with any form of Chronic illness, it’s no laughing matter. On behalf of those who have experienced the situation, I can assure you that it’s pretty sobering. One might even call it a come-to-Jesus moment. Life suddenly isn’t as easy as it was, in the past. It’s harder. Scarier. For some, their faith becomes stronger. For others, it’s when faith is sought. The unknown has a way of diminishing one’s ability to smile, let alone laugh. Yet, Scripture teaches us that there is a time for everything — even laughter. And modern medicine has actually proven that it’s good for you!

 

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“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens …”                                                                      — Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NIV)

 

Laughter has the wondrous ability to heal and renew the body. When you laugh, it enhances your intake of oxygen. It stimulates your heart, lungs and muscles. Laughter increases endorphins in your brain. It even burns calories. And all of this helps you. With every giggle, you will relieve tension … fight stress … and relax. But that’s just the short-term benefits!

In the long-term, laughter improves your immune system. It helps to relieve pain. And it increases your level of personal satisfaction. Laughter improves your mood — including your outlook on life. You might even say that laughter sows seeds of optimism. And we all know how essential that is, when living with a Chronic illness. Laughter improves your relationships. It aids in good mental health, i.e. providing joy, relieving anxiety and strengthening resilience. A study conducted in Norway even found that people with a strong sense of humor outlive those who don’t laugh as much!

Today, the medical community is embracing Humor Therapy, also known as Complementary Therapy, to assist in the treatment of many Chronic illnesses. This therapy implements the use of laughter exercises, comedy movies, books, games, etc., to help patients cope with their disease. This has proven especially useful for Cancer patients. So, consider the benefits. 

Life is precious. And any Chronic illness is serious. But laughter really is good medicine. Indulge in it. Tell a joke. Watch a funny movie. Smile and giggle your way through a good book. Laugh. There’s no better time for it!

 

Reference Links:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-relief/art-20044456

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.htm

https://www.cancer.gov/publications/dictionaries/cancer-terms/def/humor-therapy

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_laughter_brings_us_together

* Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

 

Living With Sickle Cell Disease

One of the sweetest things about the summer is the sound of laughter. The sound of people enjoying each other and life — especially children. It has the ability to put a smile on the grumpiest faces. Ah, to be that young and carefree again … playing with dolls … romping in the park … discovering seashells on a beach … rounding the bases in Little League … swimming … fishing … waiting for the ice cream truck … running through the cool water of a sprinkler … catching fireflies … creating chalk art … the possibilities of a lazy, summer day are almost endless. Unfortunately, for some children, not everything in life is easy. These children live with a form of Chronic illness. And one of those illnesses is Sickle Cell Disease. The average age of onset is 2 months – 14 years. It’s sometimes even diagnosed at birth (with routine newborn screening tests).

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Sickle Cell Disease, or SCD, has been called “a neglected Chronic disease”, by some in the medical community. For a moment, let that sink in. But what exactly is it? SCD is a gene disorder that is inherited. The red blood cells of the patient are not shaped, normally. Instead of the round, disc shape, patients with SCD have red blood cells that are shaped like a sickle. Hence, the name. The disease is characterized by chronic anemia, acute pain, swelling of the hands and feet, bone and joint damage, chronic organ damage, ulcers and sometimes a reduced life expectancy. Many patients experience mild symptoms. Others have severe ones. No two patients are alike. But all must learn to live with the illness.

People have often misconstrued SCD as a “Black” disease. But, in reality, it is found in many races, i.e. Hispanics (from Central and South America), Middle-Eastern, Asian, Indian, and Caucasians of Mediterranean descent. Between 75,000 – 100,000 Americans have been diagnosed with Sickle Cell Disease. Globally, it affects about 30M people. And many who live in poor nations, with limited healthcare, are never diagnosed.         

Approximately 8% of African-Americans carry the Sickle Cell Trait. This varies from SCD, because there is only one sickle cell gene present. Those with SCD have two. Individuals with Sickle Cell Trait rarely show any symptoms and lead very normal lives.

If your child has been diagnosed with Sickle Cell Disease, it is important that you keep regular appointments with your doctor. If a specialist is needed, it is important to follow-up. Manage all of your child’s medications, carefully. You can help your child, by teaching him/her to avoid pain triggers, i.e. extreme temperature, stress, etc. Be sure to teach them not to smoke, use drugs, or drink alcohol. These things can cause pain and lead to additional problems. Encourage them to drink fluids for hydration and to rest. It’s also important to meet with their teacher/s. A child with SCD, or any Chronic illness, has special needs. Absences can add up in any school year, but health must come first. Discover how your child’s school can help, before a crisis occurs. It will make the difficult times less stressful. Your child may not always feel like taking part in some activities. Still, it is important they he/she feels included.

As your child gets older, they will be able to better communicate their concerns, feelings, pain, etc. As a parent, our first instinct is to protect our children. Some parents can become over-protective. Try to avoid that temptation. Give your child chores to do. It teaches responsibility. And that helps a child to live with any Chronic illness. Look for activities that he/she can excel in. Encourage exercise, because it will strengthen their body. Scouting. Band. Art. Dance. Various extra-curricular clubs. All will offer the chance for your child to discover what they can do, their hidden talents, build self-confidence and offer peer interaction.

Chronic illness isn’t a handicap. So, please, don’t turn it into one. Every child should be encouraged to live life, to the fullest. Like most kids, you child has dreams, i.e. college, careers, families. Dream with him/her. Help your child to set goals and attain them. The best way to accomplish this is by teaching him/her how to live with their disease. Teach your child the importance of monitoring their symptoms, taking their meds, talking to their doctor and understanding their limitations. Be open and honest with them. The more that they respect their disease, the easier it becomes to live with it. And heaven knows, it isn’t going anywhere. Love them, but try not to smother them. They need to be kids … teens … young adults. They need to live. Best of all, they can!

 

Reference Links:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4285890/

https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/sickle-cell-anemia.html

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sickle-cell-anemia/symptoms-causes/syc-20355876

https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/sickle-cell-disease#inheritance

http://www.hematology.org/Patients/Anemia/Sickle-Cell.aspx

https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/sicklecell/documents/tipsheet_supporting_students_with_scd.pdf

https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/sickle-cell-anemia.html

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19337181

https://www.ncbi.nlm.ni

* Photo by Frank McKenna on Unsplash

Happy Trails …

It’s the time of year, when many people are getting ready (if not packing) for a vacation. For those with a Chronic illness,  that means paying attention to details. Your life isn’t over just because you were diagnosed. Travel, domestic or foreign, can still be enjoyed. But it does require some careful planning. If you do so, you’ll have less stress … more relaxation … a great trip … wonderful memories … and added confidence for taking future excursions.

First, it’s important to be realistic and honest with yourself (and your traveling companion/s). Do you feel well enough to take a trip? Only you know that answer. If you are the least bit uncertain, you should see your doctor and discuss it. Some seasons may be easier for you to travel in. Some locales may be easier to access. How you travel can also have an impact, on your health. And, in all honesty, there will be years when you simply cannot take the risk. Chronic illnesses do not stop just because you go on vacation. This is your new normal and, like your shadow, your illness is going to be with you. Assuming that you are feeling good and a trip is on the horizon, remember your limitations. 

For me, personally, it’s 6-7 hours per day. It doesn’t matter if I’m traveling by car, rail, or air. My body doesn’t cooperate well, beyond that. So, my plans heed the time-frame. If my destination requires 2 days of traveling, I book a hotel room for the night. Pacing yourself, with any Chronic illness, is important. It doesn’t matter if you are en route, or at your destination. Pacing yourself can be the difference between relaxation and a setback. So, don’t push yourself. Think ahead. Do you need to make a reservation, for the road? Do you need to rethink a planned activity? I’m not suggesting that you sit idly in your hotel room. I’m just saying that you need to remember your body’s limitations. And we all have them.

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If you are traveling abroad, check your Passport. Is it valid? If you don’t have a Passport, you’ll need to visit the State Department website for information on how to obtain one. This process doesn’t happen overnight (typically 6-8 weeks), so don’t wait until the week before your departure to get started.

With a Chronic illness, it’s essential to choose a destination where you can get good health treatment if necessary. A letter from your doctor, on his office stationery, that details your condition, i.e. medications, etc., is always helpful to have on hand. Sometimes, it can be necessary. Medical alert bracelets, or tags, are another plus. These can be easily obtained online, if you don’t already own one. Will you need immunizations for your trip? If so, these should be taken 4-6 weeks before you go. 

Beyond passports, modes of travel and reservations … there’s health insurance. This is especially pertinent if you are traveling abroad. Most regular health plans provide no coverage, or limited coverage, when you are in another country. Medicare offers none. So, take a moment and contact your health insurance. Ask what is and isn’t covered. You might even consider getting Travel Health Insurance. 

About two weeks before leaving town, your attention should focus on your cellphone coverage and credit cards. If you are taking your cellphone, you’ll want to call your provider to make certain you will have service at your intended destination. This may require additional coverage and fees, depending upon where you are going, i.e. another country, and your current plan. Your credit card companies also need to be notified of where you are traveling to and when, so be sure to contact them. 

It’s time to pack. And let’s be honest, packing can be a hassle. So err on the side of caution, make a list of everything you will need. That way you are less likely to forget something important. You will need to pack your medications as well as any supplies, i.e. inhalers, syringes, glucose test strips, etc. It’s wise to pack a few days extra, just in case you encounter a delay. Comfortable clothing and footwear always comes in handy. Do you occasionally need a heating-pad? If the answer is yes, then pack it. Do you sometimes have incontinence issues? Make sure you pack those products, too. It is easier to be prepared than to be stuck in a difficult situation without them. 

When your departure day finally arrives, you’re going to be excited. But it’s still important to stay focused. Wear comfortable clothing, especially on travel days. Comfortable shoes, too. Make sure you have your passport, your ID, maps, tickets, wallet, cellphone, etc. Put your medications in a place where you can easily obtain them, i.e. a purse, a tote bag, carry-on, etc. Stay hydrated. The summer heat can create additional problems and air travel can, too. Drinking water not only keeps your body hydrated, it helps you to stay resistant to germs. No matter which mode of travel you choose, remember to take a break — walk around, stretch, etc. It does help. Keep the time zone differences in mind, when taking your medications. Last, but not least, relax … You CAN do this! Millions of us do!

Happy trails …

 

 

Reference Links:

https://wwwnc.cdc.gov/travel/page/health-status

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports.html

https://travel.usnews.com/features/does-your-health-insurance-plan-cover-you-while-abroad

https://wwwnc.cdc.gov/travel/yellowbook/2018/advising-travelers-with-specific-needs/travelers-with-chronic-illnesses

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/turning-straw-gold/201407/what-it-s-take-vacation-while-chronically-ill

https://wwwnc.cdc.gov/travel/page/chronic-illnesses

* Photo by Austin Neill on Unsplash

Waiting For Your Garden

Gardens have a way of teaching patience. It doesn’t matter where they are located, their size, or what you are growing. They are still a lesson in that virtue. My granny was a very gifted gardener. I’ve seen her grow lush plants, bushes and trees from frail cuttings. Even now, when I reflect upon her gardening skills, I am amazed. She made it look so easy. Our lives are gardens, too; remember? Chronic illness, in any form, has the same uncanny ability to teach patience. It’s a lesson that is often learned the hard way. And the waiting, for lack of a better description, can feel hellish. 

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        “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” — Romans 12:12 NIV

If you have a Chronic illness, or you know someone who does, then you recognize this garden’s path all too well. You have followed it, with scared and sometimes reluctant steps. The waiting seems to never end. From the initial diagnosis, through the necessary tests, the difficult symptoms and devilish setbacks … you are constantly waiting … for results … for less pain … for more energy … waiting for doctors … for medications … for more mobility … for a good day … maybe, a good week … and waiting … and waiting. Living with a Chronic illness demands tenacity and optimism. But, above all, it requires an abundance of patience — with your body, your illness and the world around you. It isn’t easy. I know. But it is feasible.

For the most part, many people misunderstand patience. When you exercise patience, you aren’t giving up. Nor does it imply that you don’t care. We’re talking about your health, or that of a loved one. Of course, you care. Patience is a quiet power that nourishes the mind, body and soul. It has the ability to make you stronger — healthier. Now, for a moment, consider the alternative.

When you try to juggle life and a Chronic illness without patience, you become frustrated. Angry. This hurts you and those around you. It hampers your abilities. As life begins to spiral out of control, you are overwhelmed. Then, anxiety joins the mix. In some cases, depression follows. You don’t need more health problems. Yet, that’s what you have. Your health, physically and emotionally, has become even more fragile than it was before.

By using patience, you have an advantage. Patience allows you to manage stress more effectively.  You are happier — more at peace with yourself and your life. It provides better mental health. It strengthens and nourishes your relationships, too. And your support system is a very priceless thing. Patience allows you to achieve your goals, no matter how long it may take. It enables you to overcome the inevitable setbacks. You are living — even thriving — under difficult circumstances. How? Because patience has increased your coping skills. And that is an important part of managing any Chronic disease.

Granted, not all of us are patient by nature. But there are things that you can do to cultivate patience:

  1. When life isn’t going as planned, i.e. a flare in your disease, don’t blame yourself or others. Don’t allow negative emotions to take root. Stay calm. Keep your perspective, i.e. setbacks happen even when you do everything your doctor has advised. Chronic diseases often evolve and change happens.
  2. To reduce your pain, do not allow your thoughts to magnify the situation. Does it hurt? Yes. But remind yourself that uncomfortable pain doesn’t equate to unbearable pain. Acknowledge the difference. You can and will get through this. 
  3. Listen to your body. Don’t allow pain, swelling, or whatever symptom, to prevail. Don’t ignore the obvious. You know what is the norm with your body and your disease. When things are worsening, call your doctor and address it.
  4. Never underestimate a self pep-talk. This is no pity-party. Think about what you are dealing with, your options, your feelings, etc. Acknowledge your victories — even the small ones. Embrace what you can do. You might even bounce a few ideas, off of someone in your support system. You will feel better. Then, catch your breath. Focus on your goal. 

Every garden has its trials and triumphs. Yet, despite the obstacles, life blooms. It may take a little longer than we expected. The waiting is inconvenient, at the least. But it’s part of the journey. Life continues — yours and mine. Each day, even the difficult ones, are a blessing. So, thank God for them. Cherish their beauty. Grow in your wisdom. And sow more patience.

 

Reference Links:

http://www.clevelandclinicmeded.com/medicalpubs/diseasemanagement/psychiatry-psychology/coping-with-chronic-medical-illness/

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_reasons_to_cultivate_patience

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